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“If You Can’t Say Something Nice, Don’t Say Anything at All”: Coping with Interpersonal Tensions in the Parent-Child Relationship During Adulthood

Birditt, Kira S; Rott, L; Fingerman, Karen L. (2009). "If You Can't Say Something Nice, Don't Say Anything at All": Coping with Interpersonal Tensions in the Parent-Child Relationship During Adulthood. Journal of Family Psychology. 23(6), 769-778.